Fiancee - I proposed by hacking Chrono Trigger
Fiancee - whats the big deal with a proposal anyway
I may be the only fiancee and the only woman I know who feels this way (except for my mother; love you mom!) but I really don't understand what the big deal is with a proposal of marriage. Presumably by the time you get to that point both of you are already in deep enough that you both know things are going there anyway, right, and that you will soon have a fiancee. Hopefully you will have talked to it before that point is reached (because if your relationship is going to last longer than a few years, maybe a decade, you have to have good, quality communication; seriously, it's the lifeblood of relationships). So really, I don't see how it could be that much of a surprise (unless you thought the other person was dragging their feet and all the sudden they are proposing to you and you have a fiancee; what?!).
Fiancee - and what's with the man proposing anyway
Okay, I understand that there is a lot of history and tradition that dictates our courting, engagement, and marriage customs being what they are, but in this day and age why does it have to be the man that proposes anyway? If, as I stated in the earlier, you have reached the point where you both know that you are going to be with each other for the long haul, who cares who decides to "make it official." I know there's this whole thing about guys feeling weird being asked, but you know what, maybe some of us ladies feel weird not getting to ask. I realize I'm in the minority here, so probably about 90%of boyfriends in America should not listen to me.
Fiancee - how does it affect plans for the future
So I realize people say that a wedding is a big deal, that getting married totally affects your future, that it's a big step, blah blah blah, but is that really true. Is your girlfriend becoming your fiancee going to make your relationship that much different? Is your fiancee becoming your wife going to rock your world (well, hopefully only in a good way)? For the minority of us that choose not to cohabit before marriage, yes it is a big step, and yes it does make things way different. For most modern US citizens who cohabit often long before thoughts of marriage begin to crop up, how does it change things that much? Perhaps you combine finances now, but then some married couples don't. Perhaps you combine names, but then not all married couples do that either. There is very little that has to change if you are already living together, so holding off on it seems kind of silly to me. You have already committed in deed, why not commit in word as well? I would think it would be easier at that point.
Fiancee - it really does mean a lot to us, okay
Because, let's face it, even many of us women who want to keep our names, have our own careers, put off having kids (if ever, honestly), and not have to cook and clean all the time, we still value commitment from a guy. In a world that encourages guys to be like James Bond and Indiana Jones, one big ball of testosterone out chasing women, it means something to have your own hunk who says, "yeah there are lots of girls, but only one you." And even if a guy never says that, that is what marriage says to a girl (but, for the record, do try to say that. a lot). Yay fiancees!
